Thursday, May 31, 2012

Anxiety

Maybe it's more information than you need to know but my blog is my way of sorting out my thoughts and documenting my life and unfortunately this is a part of it. Last night I had my first anxiety attack. I've always been a little bit of a worry wart and afraid of everything- from getting in trouble, to hospitals to roller coasters. It's never really been to the point where it's kept me from living life. I suck it up and ride roller coasters (although it took me until I was like 18 to do it), I've obviously been to the Doctor, and of course have gotten into my fair share of trouble :)

Last night after a fun day of playing with B, Daniel and I sat down had diner and were watching the end of the Celtics/Heat game and I just starting feeling funny. I first I thought maybe it was something I ate. Queasy, tingly, dry mouth, tummy issues, and of course the fear that something terrible was happening- yuck! Of course my brain then starts worrying that I'm having a heart attack or something major which most likely made it worse- so after about an hour and a half of it coming in waves I tell Daniel maybe we should go to the doctor just to be safe. We put B in the car seat, drive the 25 minutes to the ER and sit in the parking lot for like 20 minutes while I debate whether I want to go in and wait 4 hours (and pay $400) to be told I'm having an anxiety attack. Don't get me wrong if I was having trouble breathing or having severe pain- I definitely would have gone in. We headed home, put sleeping B back in her crib (she woke up for like 10 seconds the whole time- what a champ!) and I got in bed and watched Seinfeld episodes until I fell asleep. I woke up this morning feeling better but still a little nervous. Nervous I think that when I made an appointment with the doctor that he was going to tell me I'm crazy. Lately I feel like can't watch a show where something bad happens without wondering "what if that happens to me or someone I love?".    

Having a kid has contributed some as I worry about her happiness, safety and health and all that good stuff. I also think having suddenly lost a bestie is a big part of it too. When Melly died, B was just a few weeks old and we were having breastfeeding and weight gain issues so I wasn't able to go home for her funeral and almost think I used being a new mom as a reason not to deal with it. I suppose that worked for a bit but think now it's time to come to terms with it whether I want to or not. I know that fear and anxiety is not from God and that His purpose for us is to live life fully and abundantly and without fear because He is bigger than all of it. That I shouldn't worry about tomorrow and embrace each day as it is given.

I couldn't get in to see my Doc til tomorrow morning but I went ahead and went to the urgent care office that is available with my doctors this morning. Sure enough I was right- it was an anxiety attack and to my surprise he told me that that is actually a form of postpartum depression. I was surprised because hasn't been a problem until the last few weeks but as we talked I realized I have also been less busy and less social the last few weeks which has given my little brain time to freak out about everything. :) The good thing is that it's something that can be managed and fixed and it was so nice to hear that I wasn't crazy ha ha! I felt bad because being told that it's a pretty common thing in new moms made me feel loads better. I'm still going to see my primary care doc in the morning as the other doctor wanted to be sure he tested my thyroid just in case, to get some tools to help keep the anxiety away, and to get a referral to see a counselor so I can hopefully come to terms with a loss I haven't really talked about or dealt with since it happened. While I still have some nervous feeling going on it's considerably better than it was this morning and leaps and bounds better than last night. I've also got to make it a point to not spend every waking minute alone with my kid so if anyone is free during the daytime I'll take you to lunch :)

I am blessed to have an amazing husband, a really really good baby and a God who is bigger than my anxiety (and who also has given the gift of Doctors). On the way home from the Doc's office this song came on the radio and as I sang along the words brought tears to my eyes and an overwhelming feeling of peace so I thought I'd share it.

I don't often talk about my faith, maybe because I don't want my friends who don't believe to think I'm the crazy church lady but mostly because I'm afraid that they'd look at me and say "who are you to preach to me?". I was reminded today that that's the whole point of my faith, that it's the whole reason I should talk about it. I am just as flawed just as full of issues and mistakes as everyone else, the only difference is that I know that my imperfection is made perfect through the death and resurrection of Christ and that I never have to deal with anything alone. I still mess up royally and still make some terrible decisions but I often forget that my goal isn't to be Jesus- that's impossible. My goal is to grow in my faith and to seek Him and through that my mess ups become fewer and my bad decisions aren't as frequent!

     

4 comments:

  1. I love you and I am so proud of you. Call me for a play-date soon. I miss you. xxoo.

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  2. hormones can do NASTY things to us ! I know!!!!!!!!
    I am glad you too realized that your thoughts were not "normal" for you. I think that is a big part of the Holy Spirit talking to us & keeping us safe. Text me for a skype if ya need a chat. BTW - the "what if's" never go away. But, it helps keep our babies safe. Love You!

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  3. Hey girl, I went through that really bad with the girls! It helps to know that it is completly normal and to talk about it! If you ever want to talk please feel free to call me, I would love to catch up too! Praying for you! Love, Staci Landry

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  4. Giiirrllllll....You are so totally normal it's not even funny! Call me if you ever want to chat about the baby blues. I always get them everytime I have a baby. Promise they go do go away. Proud of you for identifying it!

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